A Tip For The Boys

Women want to be validated...

The question is, how do you validate something that seems ridiculous in your eyes?

If she has a deep concern that seems to be an illogical waste of emotion, how do you possibly agree? Agreeing in your eyes means you have to lie to yourself. Deny the truth. Deny logic. Deny the facts. (From your POV) 

We don’t want her to be in pain. We want to help her, but agreeing with her seems loco… 

Here's my pro tip boys: You don’t need to agree. They want validation not agreement. Validation says, “I hear you, I understand” and “that must be really hard.” Validation addresses her feelings around the topic. 

Set aside the topic (even if it’s about you) and validate. 

Defending yourself is lazy and will set you back… I checked.