Comparison Ain’t No Thief

They say comparison is the thief of joy.  I don’t think it’s true.  Comparison is vital to personal growth. If you press the pause button and really think about what steals your joy you’ll discover the real culprit: The negative self-talk…post-comparison.

Here is a low calorie example: 

If you notice someone with good style the comparison can go two ways.

UNO

“I wish I could look that good…he always looks so damn sharp…I hate guys like him.  I always look like a lazy fool in flip-flops.  I dress like I live in my mom’s basement. Besides I don’t have the money or natural sense of style. I’ll always be a frumpy joe-bag-of-doughnuts type. Comparison is the thief of joy so I’m just gonna slip on my camo crocs and keep wearing this ole Cheeto dusted hoody.”

-VS-

DOS

“I really need to up my game.  Who do I know well enough to help me with my wardrobe?  I’m going to go through my closet this week and get rid of the stuff I know won’t cut it.  I’m looking forward to respecting myself more with developing a sense of style.  I bet anyone can learn this stuff and I’m going to commit to paying closer attention to what I wear.”

Comparison is a tricky subject but universally saying that it steals your joy is a copout. 

Pro Tip: Find the right people and compare like crazy.  It will make you better.