Hardest Questions

When you feel heavy emotion after an interaction with someone (enter knot in stomach, tight chest, blood rush to neck and face) There are really two things going on.

Your body has detected danger (It turns out it’s hard to tell the difference between physical and emotional threat)

You go into protection mode...

If it were a lion you would run. If it was a direct attack on your character you might also run.

The point worth understanding is that your ability to think rationally has left the jungle. Your entire being wants to survive. There is nothing you can do to eliminate this.

But...you can reduce it with truth. The truth is complicated by the tapes in your head. If you were bitten by a dog, you might play the tape “Dogs can’t be trusted”

The hardest question has two parts:

Is it true [Dogs can’t be trusted?]

What would life be like if I dropped the belief that [“Dogs can’t be trusted?”]

Don’t let the tail wag the dog without asking the hardest questions.