Pain

It is unavoidable yet we try to avoid it.  We sidestep, ignore, shift, and anesthetize it. It turns out time doesn't heal it either.

 If we could use logic or reason to think our way out of pain we would have already done it by now.

 It requires work in the emotional realm.  There are no tricks or hacks to circumvent…. 

(I checked)

Working through pain via prayer, an empathetic friend, and perhaps a skilled therapist will free you to be the real you.