That's a BAD Idea Craig!

When we feel challenged or questioned, the natural response is defensiveness. If our idea or position seems threatened, we protect. Standing up for yourself is a useful skill. The problem comes when we take the question personally. 

Separating the question or partitioning the challenge from yourself is hard work. It’s hard work because it feels, at first glance, to be personal.

“That’s a bad idea, Craig” 

Less mature ears may hear… 

“You’re bad Craig and you don’t know what you’re doing.” 

If you have pre-existing tapes playing in your head and you allow a challenge to validate the tapes you’ll end up in your lizard brain. The idea or position was challenged, not the personhood. 

If you’re easily offended it will cost you money and cause you pain.